Showing Up as My Whole Self—Blue Hair and All

Welcome to my corner of the internet. 💙

If you’ve clicked on this post, you might already know that I’m a licensed psychologist, trauma specialist, and deeply human person. You might also have noticed the blue hair (whaaaat?!).

What you might not know is that the hair wasn’t always blue (I know, I know, I wasn’t born with it, but I claimed it!).

Before blue, I went with comic book red—a bold-but-safer choice. What I really wanted was blue. But I didn’t feel ready—not yet. When I finally did it, it wasn’t just about color. It was about courage.

For me, blue hair wasn’t a marketing choice or a fashion experiment. It was a reclamation. A quiet, visible signal that I no longer needed to shrink myself to fit someone else’s idea of “professionalism” or “credibility.” It was the color I wanted all along—since childhood—and giving myself permission to wear it felt like taking a step closer to home.

When Therapists Show Up Fully

I’ve been told there’s something disarming about the way I show up—unguarded, grounded, and real in a way people don’t always expect from a therapist.

That’s not accidental.

There’s a history of therapy spaces feeling cold, clinical, or overly buttoned-up. But I believe the therapeutic relationship is at its best when it’s built on real connection. And sometimes, that connection starts with the unspoken cues—the cozy hoodie, the goofy grin, the blue hair on the screen.

My patients are often high achievers, creatives, and deep thinkers. They’ve done therapy before. They’ve read the self-help books. They know the language. What they’re seeking isn’t just insight—it’s resonance.

Therapy With Me Isn’t a Cookie-Cutter Approach

You won’t find a rigid persona here. No clinical detachment. No “therapist voice™”.

What you will find is a space where you’re invited to bring your full self—messy, brilliant, guarded, hopeful, hurting. I’ll meet you there, not above it. With evidence-based tools and warm curiosity, we’ll work through what’s been holding you back and move toward what’s possible.

Why the Blue Hair Matters

Because the little things—how we decorate our space, the colors we choose to wear, the softness in our voice—they all tell a story. And that story matters.

In my case, blue hair became part of that story.

It’s a visible reminder that healing doesn’t mean erasing your edges or conforming to a mold. Sometimes healing looks like coloring outside the lines. Sometimes it looks like finally being seen.

Want to Know More?

This is just one part of what therapy with me is like. If you're curious, you can learn more on my Approach page or check out Why I Built This Practice—a resource I created to demystify trauma therapy and affirm what so many survivors need to hear:

You are not broken. You are becoming whole.™

Questions or thoughts?

I’d love to hear from you. And if you’re thinking about starting therapy, you can always book a free 30-minute consultation.